Toddlers will whine and whinge to get as much attention from you as they can. Having whinging toddlers or a whining child will put a direct strain on your day to day routine. Therefore, it’s important to get to the bottom of the constant moaning to regain control.
Whinging toddlers usually begins after your child 2nd birthday and this can last until preschool. This is your toddlers’ natural way to let you know they aren’t happy with something you are doing or saying. Moreover, It is also a way to express their frustrations with an event or emotion.
Your toddler is at a crucial developmental stage being more able to express themselves. However, they are still learning the exact vocabulary to use to describe how they are feeling. Without being able to express themselves sufficiently they turn to whining as a natural way to express and vent negative emotions.
Here are some effective ways to stop your toddler constantly crying and whining.
7 Smart Ways To Help Whinging Toddlers
1. Be Patience
It’s the first and smartest way to keep calm and be patient with your child. The whinging is not a reflection on you or something you are actively doing to contribute to it. It is more a reflection of developmental change and language growth and the barrier between them both.
2. Don’t Respond
The more you respond to the whining the more you show your child that it’s an acceptable form of expression and behaviour. Try not to respond to the whining. Instead focus on him once he has stopped.
3. Be Consistent
Once you have begun to crack down on whining its time to be firm. You want to show your child that whinging won’t get them what they want and it’s not an acceptable way to express themselves. You need to be consistent in your approach. Whenever you hear that whine don’t respond to it.
4. Reinforce Positive Behaviour
A good way to keep your child from whining constantly is to reinforce positive behaviour. If they have been exceptionally good at a particular task or if you see an improvement in their behaviour give them extra praise and attention.
Whinging toddlers and whining toddlers is a plea for attention. However, if you go a bit deeper you’ll find that it’s normally a response to a need that hasn’t been met. Ask yourself these questions:
Are they hungry?
Are they Thirsty?
Are they Tired?
Have they been stimulated?
Once you cover these basic grounds you’ll find that your child’s tendency to whine will diminish significantly. Moreover, If it does resurface you can be sure that it’s due to another factor (attention, growing pains etc)
6. Use Your Words
Older children are more able to express their basic wants and needs. They will be able to understand that whining is not an appropriate form of expression and that a faster way to get what they want is to ‘use your words’
Try to consistency reinforce this fact and teach this principle over and over again.
It’s sometimes difficult to get your child to stop whining or whinging if they are very upset or if you are in a position that restricts your ability to cater to their needs (like on a long car journey. If that’s the case then you can try to distract them away from their whining.
Use their favourite toy, a song or just point to something that looks fun and exciting. Children have smaller attention spans than adults so use this to distract them away for as long as possible. Get it right and they will forget why they were irritated or upset in the first place!
If you use the above techniques in rotation you’ll have a very good strategy book the next time your child starts to whine uncontrollably. If you do it successfully soon “Whinging Toddlers” will be a thing of the past.