Why Is My Toddler So Mean To Me
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Why Is My Toddler So Mean To Me

Why is my toddler so mean to me? Do you have a vocal and opinionated at home?

They’re practically bossy in that they tell you where to sit, what pants he should wear, and how they want to eat lunch.

Furthermore, kids still have a long way to go in their ability to convey more complicated emotions and thoughts, leaving you to interpret their odd conduct at times.

So what does toddler body language and tantrums signify? Let’s check them out. 

Why Is My Toddler So Mean To Me?

According to a survey, whenever babies turn their gaze away, they’re trying to let you know they’re overwhelmed and want a break from being the center of attention.

Your toddler will develop shame around the time of her second birthday.

Because they seized the teddy bear of their baby brother again, they know that you’re angry with them.

A young child who refuses to look at you usually realizes that they have disappointed you with their actions.  

Provide simple, short explanations of what your child did wrong, like you don’t rip books or you shouldn’t push.

Then suggest a way to resolve the issue, such as taping a torn page or hugging a crying friend. 

It’s important to let her know that everyone makes mistakes from time to time, but taking steps to make amends is the best course of action. 

1. What Causes Toddlers To Be Aggressive?

Do you wonder why these actions are less-than-pleasant? They often have a limited vocabulary, extra energy reserves and are at times simply hungry and tired.

Kids from even the most indulgent of homes can lash out with their feet, fists, and teeth – and when they’re overwhelmed by frustration or fury, they focus on using their bodies rather than speaking. 

Furthermore, some toddlers do not even need anger to get physical – they may be motivated to get physical just by the excitement that comes with being aggressive.

2. Give Your Toddler Extra Attention. 

Spending more time with your toddler than anyone else doesn’t mean that you have to give them lots of attention.

No one can give 100% of their attention to everyone at all times, but sometimes when you spend a lot of time together, you get so used to your routine that you end up sacrificing quality for quantity – a recipe for disaster.

If your tot doesn’t get your full attention by being good, they’ll settle for being bad – which gets your attention quickly! 

Consider sharing stories, talking over lunch, or simply playing together more often when you can.

For example, spend a few minutes drawing alongside your child instead of hurrying to complete a chore when they are happy to draw.

As a result, they might be encouraged to behave better with the extra one-on-one time.

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3. Your Toddler’s Aggressive Behavior: What You Can Do

Stay calm – and then consider these tips when you’re confronted with aggressive toddlers:

  • Don’t lose your cool. Stay calm no matter what. If you demonstrate an outsized and dramatic reaction to a punch, they’re sure to remember “punching” as a surefire strategy to get tons of attention the next time. 
  • Make sure your children don’t play aggressively. Take care not to let violence creep into your children’s games. If your toddler begins to hit other dolls with the doll, they are playing with, and they are a step away from committing the deed in real life. Children may digest the message that violence is acceptable if they can play with violent toys and watch shows like this (now or in the future). 


Why is my toddler so mean to me? Unfortunately, early childhood development is characterized by some aggressive behavior.

If a child’s aggressive behavior interferes with their ability to play with other children, explore, and learn, or if you find yourself avoiding playing with them or taking them to other activities because of their aggressive behavior, then you may wish to seek professional guidance.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)

How come my toddler is so aggressive towards me?

You may notice aggressive behavior in your toddler when she is playing with her peers. She may hit, shove, or even bite.

The act is a way of expressing frustration, gaining independence, and learning self-control.

What is the normal level of aggression in toddlers?

Behaviors like aggression are common in toddlers as they develop socially and emotionally.

For example, every child hits, kicks, and yells when overwhelmed by strong emotions, and toddlers and even preschoolers often bite for the same reason.

What is the cause of my child’s anger and aggression?

The following conditions often accompany anger issues in children: ADHD, autism, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and Tourette’s syndrome.

Anger/aggression is believed to be affected by genetics and other biological factors. However, the environment also influences it.

Mo Mulla

Mo Mulla is a work from home dad who enjoys reading and listening to music, He loves being a dad and husband to a growing family. He also loves writing about his passions and hopes to change the world, 1 blog post at a time!

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