Learning how to stop a child from screaming for no reason isn’t easy. Children will cry for a variety of reasons and to pinpoint the exact reason for tears can take time.
Children often show signs of fatigue, frustration and tiredness at different stages of the day. With all 3 factors in play, you will get a very unhappy child which can lead to an onslaught of disruptive behaviour.
Your child is learning at a very fast pace. This developmental tension can take a huge toll on their minds and bodies. Being able to express themselves and learn effective ways of expression stem from the early years of development.
Unfortunately, for many parents, this will mean more toddler screaming tantrums and having a screaming toddler at night.
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Is There A Reason For All This Screaming?
Your child will very rarely scream for no reason. Usually, a child is trying to express a particular set of thoughts or feelings and is unable to do so.
When they are emotionally scarred or vulnerable a scream can be the last resort. It’s a common way for children to vent frustrations and release big emotions like anger, fear or betrayal.
It is important to remember though, that sometimes children are just having fun. Vocalising their expressions and screaming at the top of their lungs can be a great way to play and learn about themselves.
How To Stop A Child From Screaming For No Reason
1. Keep your house at a set volume
Many houses are too loud with constant music, TV and other background noises like toys. A Child that is in a noisy environment will try to create as much noise as possible to be heard.
This means that they will shout or scream to compete for attention, the louder the better. Keep the environment of your house at a more controlled level to help control the sound levels of your child
2. Don’t shout back
Learning how to stop a child from screaming for now reason takes patience and resilience. This is useful to remember for discipline.
You should try to keep your voice as low as possible and don’t engage in any more loud shouting. This will only encourage more noise and eventually one of you will lose (probably you)
Children often mimic people around them so will reflect the way you talk back at them. It can feel natural to yell back at a child that is already shouting at you, but it’s important that you fight this temptation.
By remaining calm and using a more controlled pitch you are showing your child that being aggressive and shouting at the top of your lungs isn’t the appropriate way to communicate and there are easier ways to get the point across.
3. Use your inside voice
This may be a bit harder for younger children (1 – 2 years old) but you should still introduce the concept. Younger children are still experimenting with their voice, what it sounds like, what other people think of it and a whole variety of words to learn.
Older children should learn to understand that when they are outside they can talk more loudly as there are more external noises. But as soon as they come in a softer and lower voice is needed.
By recommending and reminding your children to use their inside voice you are communicating that shouting is only appropriate in limited situations.
Try to remind your child as often as possible to ‘Use their inside voice’ as they will learn easier when they are told over and over again. Unfortunately, children learn faster the more times you tell them the same thing!
4. Change the scenery
If you find you’re indoors frequently and your child seems to be screaming non-stop indoors to the point of mild insanity, try to take them outdoors Even if it’s just for a quick walk it will help.
Children are very easily distracted and sometimes forget why they were upset and screaming in the first place. This is a great distraction method and works really well.
5. Teach Respect
Children learn from the way you respond to them both positively and negatively. The will constantly mimic your behaviour and if you are aggressive in your approach and don’t promote respect your child will not feel it necessary to show it back.
By failing to be respectful and tactful you show your child that parents can lose control and have their buttons easily pushed leading to self-destruction.
You also show that power and aggression wins over respect and discipline. As he grows up he will learn that over-powering other people is the correct way to get things done.
6. Eye Contact
Try face to face communication and use eye contact. It’s very difficult for your child to intimidate you when they are looking you right in the eyes and they are right next to you.
Better still they learn that if they want to communicate effectively with you they need to come to you deliberately instead of shouting out across your home.
7. Create Positive Frameworks
Try and use a positive structure in your house and reinforce positive behaviour. This is a great way to promote good behaviour and ensures your household is more efficient and proactively driven
For example, If 5 pm is dinner time every day, then at these times there is no more toys, no more games and everyone must get washed up and be ready to eat. If this happens every day there is very little that your toddler can do to stop the routine. Write it down on a household chart and reference it daily.
This gives your child a positive framework to work with and ensures structure. Children crave structure and perform better when they know and understand what is about to happen and why. You can tap enable this natural disposition by providing a more constructive framework for everyone to work within.
8. Communication is KEY!
Lastly, talk to your child about yelling and screaming. You can do this at any age as younger children can still understand basic requests even if they aren’t able to express their comprehension.
Explain that shouting “isn’t an acceptable form of communication” and if they want to get something done the correct way they should “come up to you and ask.”
Explain you are always open to talk with and discuss any topic they need to talk about and that ‘communication is key”
Often children can go through phases with experimental screaming and learning ways to express themselves. Try to keep in mind your child’s developmental age and check to see if that self-expression and screaming is a normal and natural event.
Learning How To Stop A Child From Screaming For No Reason takes a bit of time and patience, but using the tips above and you’ll be off to the right start.